Spice of life
Contrary to purists, the spice of life can be important. Spice of life is the intricacy of temptation. It is tasting without diving in. It is in contrast to bluntness, callousness, and harshness. Many years ago I was dating an attractive woman, June, and then we stopped dating. Then she started to date someone else and I found myself very jealous, with feelings I rarely had recently or in the past. Surprisingly, it aroused an animal spirit in me. It felt very alive, and I felt like throwing caution to the wind. Somehow it overrode all the garbage I normally have to worry about, as my impulse dominated. Not so bad for a time. Again, it felt alive.
I recently had a James Bond movie on TV, which I often have when I'm working. I wasn't watching the action or violence. What interested me were the intrigues, the innuendos, the teasing, and the subtle mannerisms. What I held in previous disdain as superficial held a new interest. It was the spice of life which I never appreciated before. The nuanced dress code, the askance glance, the ironic wit, all displayed different layers of existence. While such curiosity is not about the basics of food, clothing and shelter, they speak to humanity's bravado before inevitable demise. It is not so bad to take part in these games for a brief time. Yes, it is the ego at play, but this is part of life's experience I concluded.
Of course one has to have a base to play like this. There has to be a certain comfort level to participate. Otherwise, if you play and fall, the payment can be huge, resulting in drudgery and even hardship for many years. For this reason some of us can't participate in the spice of life for too long. We can't risk it because it is a luxury. However, one can still observe and appreciate from a distance which still contributes to the flavor of living.