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Acceptance and reconciliation

1/27/2017

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Principles

Law of  contradiction.

Acceptance and reconciliation

In life, as one lives over time, one sees a law of contradiction seeming to take place.  Simply put, one has to learn to live with contradictions often without resolution.  This operates on many levels.  Thesis, anti-thesis, both exist within the realm of possibility.  The maker, purity of intent, both exist alongside sensual needs and pleasures.  Good and bad exist within the same person.

When younger one looks for a system, a paradigm that will include all things.  This always fails because we have no way of seeing the whole picture. Ideologies, “isms,” fall into this category.  In physics you have the poles, plus and minus, combining to make the whole.

In the realm of ideas, existence, theories and the spirit, the only antidote to contradiction is acceptance and reconciliation.  You just have to encompass both under a big umbrella.

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One way or the other

9/23/2015

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Law of contradiction


One way or the other

Well, hurricane Erica fizzled out and it was sunny this morning so I went for a swim.  At first I was one of three people and I was free to swim in any direction I chose, but one lady  had a relative who seemed a little mentally slow and I wasn't sure where he was going so I decided to swim laps the width of the pool.  As it wasn't too early and I got a late start others started to trickle in the pool, probably relieved after being cooped up in anticipation of Erica.  They all slowly swam or walked across the pool so my decision was the right one.

I finished some laps, then did some stretching and lay out to get a little sun before the clouds started to come.  A man who I didn't recognize entered the pool and he began to do the backstroke lengthwise oblivious to all the people walking width wise.  Nobody said anything and I wondered if I was the only one it bothered.  Anyhow, it got cloudier and I got dressed to leave and stopped to speak to Elizabeth, an acquaintance, swimmer, Peruvian, new facebook friend whose daughter just got married far away in Las Vegas. 

After listening a bit I noticed the man was still in the pool going the wrong way and I said to Elizabeth “He's going the wrong way.  Wondering if I should say something.”  Her answer was '”Ah, leave him alone.  Let him be free.”  Hmmmmm.  So I did and left.  Definitely the easier way.  If the man was Mike Tyson I probably wouldn't have said anything either.  But he wasn't.

So here it is.  Rules were there and I sacrificed my own swimming comfort to follow them.  We have a right to diplomatically and carefully correct others who don't, as it is for the general good.  Or, should we, a la libertarian style, let things work themselves out naturally.  Let the forces just build by themselves and actions and reactions would occur just naturally.  People are tired of being programmed and micro managed and listening to authority.  On the other hand the 'anything goes' policy often lets the selfish and forceful and inconsiderate have their way and others quietly become victimized.

So, as with everything, its a moment by moment decision.  Also to be considered is the tolerance of the person who sees what is wrong but is not sure whether to act or not.  A negative interaction can discolor  your entire day.  Oh my.  It's just a simple thing but even simple things aren't always so easy.


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Like a Zen Koan

2/5/2015

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276.  Principles

Law of contradiction


Like a Zen Koan 


My life has, in many aspects, turned into a Zen Koan.  A Zen Koan is a question for which one wrestles for a solution to which there is no answer.  In a stalemate of contradicting forces, one's  mind is almost short circuited and becomes 'mindless.'   The thinking is that when your mind is taken out of the equation other higher realms can fill the void, at least for a moment.

When I was young sometimes I would use aids in making art.  Sometimes results were impressive.  These aids were part of the environment and I didn't think twice about doing so.  Later, different instructors I had looked down upon such usage and convinced me to do the same.  A real, basic foundation was sought even if it thwarted or changed me.  At times I look back and wonder if this was a mistake. However, I held this purist position for decades, even if my work didn't fully reflect it.

Recently I ran across an artist who creates trompe d'oeil paintings that are impressive in their polish and finish.  I can tell however that he uses aids in his process.  Upon listening to an interview with him, he keeps this no secret, and even touts it as a viable tool.  What is interesting is that he agrees with the purists when it comes to foundation building.  During schooling he thinks no aids should be used.  Only after rigorous training do they remain an option.  He recognizes most artists who use such aids haven't had such a background.

At first I resisted what he said but realized my loyalty to the purist camp hasn't always been appreciated nor given results.  It is something I just followed in the name of a higher principle.  Perhaps it limited my scope.  It's possible I stood right inbetween; on one hand seeing the validity of not using aids but on the other hand not fully masterful enough to do what I wanted to without them.  The make up of how things come about can be too complicated to fit into a simple purist camp.  Ideology, which I have a leaning towards, while good on paper, can often disappoint.  It can be man simplifying existence into components he is able understand, but it is not often the full truth.  The full truth is more mysterious than that.

And so, another quandary was revisited, almost similar to one I had around 21 that felt devastating.  However, this time around, maybe through weariness, I accepted it and didn't fight back.  Something might be understood about it down the road.  Indeed, part of me even wondered how this artist incorporated the aids into trompe d'oeil painting.  Curiosity is a good sign, a sign of life.  Even if one has to remain on a fence not sure which side to jump onto, a precarious position at best, this too can be accepted.  At the very least life goes on.  At the most such helplessness makes effort and pushing forward extraneous.  As with a Zen Koan, one is forced into a higher realm to find  rest in, however briefly.

Perhaps many are facing today these Zen Koans that lead to perplexity. Our core issues become a metaphysical puzzle that we can't answer.  We can no longer strive to solve and judge our own dilemmas.  Rather we are kicked into a higher plane and only that perspective makes it possible to live with ourselves. In a sense we enter a place of peace because it's the only option left.





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Strolling with Linda

7/24/2014

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Cellphone at the pool

2/14/2014

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Principles

Law of contradiction


Cellphone at the pool    

This situation brings to mind the “three point triangle theory,” where there is a  beneficial force at one point, a detrimental force at another point, and a third reconciliatory force at another point.  When trying to relax one day at the community pool a man was talking very loudly on his cell phone, despite a rule not to do so.  When the rule was made cellphones had not reached the general public.

One lady from Sarasota enthusiastically enforced all the rules at the pool, risking "life" and "limb" in her words to do so.  She had enlisted me also to do so.  She would speak in a forceful way about the rudeness of people and how she wasn't brought up with such disregard for standards, and how it was her duty to correct people.  Later, her arthritis semi-crippled this once pretty, athletic woman and her policing came to a standstill.

Now many people speak on their cellphones, and intimate details of their lives are shared with all, and peace and quiet had gone elsewhere.  So I wasn't sure if I should correct these people, keep the rules and respect the quiet, or let it go, just go along with the lack of manners and not place myself in a tense situation.  I would have to balance the need to do right and my own tolerance for creating a possible conflict.


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