I remember years ago hearing and reading about the importance of the mother. New Age studies, anthropological studies, animal studies brought this to my attention. Lionesses lick their young, cared for them, nourished them. Human moms hold and hug their young, stroke them, breast feed them, undoubtedly giving them a sense of well-being from the start.
Then I discovered philosophical, psychological, and spiritual paradigms that emphasized righteousness, right over wrong, delayed gratification and discipline. The key figure in the family was the father. He set the tone, corrected, trained and guided the child. No doubt he was important.
Finally I remembered talking to my friend Steve and we agreed that life needed power and being nourished was the key to that power. The dedicated mother was the source of this. There is a Christian scripture (I’m referencing it, not revering it) where God blesses the womb that gave birth to the child (paraphrased) which implies all good things in the child originated in the mom. Your dad might guide you, put you on the right track, but without the strength from the mother there is not enough raw “power” to pursue this track effectively. If a son receives all he needs from the mother, he will have the strength to live through the day whether he be in the right or the wrong. Without the nourishment from the mom, even if he is right he will be overcome. A crude example is what happens in prison to the weakest.
The best situation is to be given strength from the mother and guidance on how to live from the dad. However, without the strength and nourishment from mother, choosing between right and wrong becomes a luxury.