My dad always talks about healthy socializing. He thinks I can become too isolated. True, but also one has to get things done.
I went recently to a party held by Jean, a member of an artist’s group. Many people were there and the food was great. One lady spoke of getting old and being alone and not complaining about it. It was an unusual candid talk, although I’m not sure I agree with the ‘man up’ conclusion. I pondered being alone after my dad would pass. He was 93. At the party I was around people, had to be “on,” and fell back into my performance mode and felt pressure to be ‘up.’
Later, the uncomfortable feeling at this get together left and I felt a sadness over the experience. The party won't last, we won't last, and I was with people just trying to have a good time. I became less judgmental and self-conscious and more sympathetic. Socializing was healthy even amidst a backdrop of negatives. Even if not family, it is a human need. I recently read even eating while socializing is healthy.