Hurt turns into need to help
Some of us, even though hurt by our families, have the need more than other members, to help, even save our families. Often we are the least capable to do so. The thinking behind this is that if we help them then we can become ok. They had difficulties which they passed on to us. So it is natural to want to help them become ok. Since we were hurt the most, we have the biggest need to find the cure for ourselves and our parents. We are connected to them in a web of love and suffering. The ones hurt the most often love them the most, and want to help the most.