Humor and Sharon's 60th
Friend Sharon had a 60th Birthday party, all well prepared in a nice setting and fun.
'With a little alcohol in my system there was humor everywhere. The theme was the mod 50's and 60's. Sue was dressed like Jackie Kennedy. After her various incarnations she was now raising some piglets and chickens. I said I was a city boy who didn't know raisins came from grapes. I added the first time I saw free roaming chickens out west they were so lively, had so much personality, were so active I was fixated. I had just thought they were lumps of meat before. She described how she too watches them fascinated, puts them on different level cages, and lets them enjoy being chickens. “They have good lifes. They have lifes, ” I added as if we were talking about the rich and famous. We cracked up and had a good belly laugh. Later I introduced her to someone as a chicken farmer. Still later we laughed as Sharon's dog would not stop humping young Ben's leg. Ben was Sam's bi_ch. I thought it good that Sharon hadn't had children.
People made fun of people all night. Sitting outside with Linda and Barbara, Barbara said the chicken was so good she wants the recipe from Sharon's sister. Later I approached Sharon's sister and asked if she made the chicken because people were liking it?” She then asked 'if I thought she was a fool, there was already too much work to do, ten chickens were needed, and did I think she was stupid. Of course she ordered out.' I told Linda and Barbara this and we also had a good laugh.
A new tenant of Linda's from an interesting illustrious background was sitting nearby. Barbara often called me 'Nussbaum' and I introduced myself as such but didn't say much else to him. After the man left I said if I had know before he was the same interesting tenant I would have been nicer. Again, funny at the time.
So what's the point. The point is humor, even deprecating humor, as long as its not totally cruel, is funny and actually helps us take things less seriously. You can go to therapy for years or just go to a few parties to smash your stubborn ego. We see flaws in others and ourselves and make some jokes about it. The pressure to be all that is relieved.
On the other hand I do take myself somewhat seriously as things have to get done and have to be held together. The past has to be sifted, the present defended and the future pioneered.
Oh this life!