True help is not about advice, counseling, friendship or guidance. It is help, getting in there, being involved. Once, when I was buying a used car, I had many other expenses, my friend Ruth gave me $200 for an $800 car purchase. This wasn’t talk. This was help.
In this world it is true that there is a “price for everything.” It is also true “nothing is for nothing.” Given this, real help is when someone gives and asks nothing in return, or at least asks for less in return. The concept of “a price on everything” is broken because the giving was for free or for a price that was less than what was given.
The only other place on this earth where we can receive without paying is from parents. They are capable of giving without asking for a return. What you receive is for free. If you don’t have parents that gave freely you have been set-up for a lifelong deficit. In a sense, you haven’t been filled with the fuel for life. Later, the world demands payment from you for what you need to live and since you haven’t received, you have nothing with which to pay. You are forced to cut corners, be dishonest or to compensate. This is the plight of one who was never nourished. If you have parents that give freely, it is a gift. It is power, it is life itself.