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Vulnerable single men

2/5/2015

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278.  Past


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Men/women

Vulnerable single men  
(Not much is written on this group, the single, aging, not rich man.)

Single aging men are vulnerable.  There was a man, John, who used the community pool.  He walked back and forth as many of the older men did, waving his hands, expounding on any subject brought up.  He was erudite and well educated.  Eventually he lost a lot of money invested in Sun Microsoft during the time its shares nosedived from over 100 to a single digit.  He managed on, kept a good face, but essentially was depressed and had no family or back up.  Neighbors offered him advice, to socialize, to get some sun when he became reclusive, but really what he needed was not advice, but someone to give him $10,000 to repair his teeth.

A year or so later they found John deceased in his apartment from natural causes.  He had a decent body and used to walk, but he let himself deteriorate over time.  He once half-jokingly said to me “will you take care of me when I’m really old?”  He also asked me if I took antidepressants, as if everyone did.  Other men, with ½ his good genetics, last a lot longer when they are in a family setting.  John wasn’t and aging single men who are not comfortable usually don’t do well these days.

Another decent looking man I knew was a professor in Syracuse, NY.  I’m not sure if he was retired or not.  We were in the pool together and a few young pretty women were visiting and he flirted with them, as they did with him in a harmless way.  He had a playful look in his eyes.  A year later I saw him and he seemed to have deteriorated.  He wasn’t sure whether to sell his condominium or not as I recall.  For that matter he wasn’t sure what to do about anything.  I also recall him saying he had a sister, but she was far away and there was contention there. Then I didn’t hear from him or see him, and found out third hand that he had died.  He was not that old, and originally looked in good enough health.  But he had died.  Again, aging single men don’t  always do well.  



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