Age challenges what you think
I have a neighbor Carol, who has done a little bit of this and that to earn a living. She had been married three times. Besides being a realtor, she did motivational speeches using visualizations, positive thinking, and techniques about maintaining a good attitude. Sometimes she visited Israel, where one of children became orthodox and moved there. She prides herself on going with the flow and being economically astute.
A few years ago, before the economic downturn, Carol’s world was beginning to crack. She was overweight, hurt her knee badly and she couldn’t rent out her apartment easily. Her orthodox children were difficult and demanding. Motivational speaking was drying up, and she, tired of being alone, went on a dating site to meet and give men “winks.” After some time having not seen her, I saw of her walking with a cane and looking thin.
One night, early in our acquaintance, she invited me for dinner after I picked her up from the airport (always something for something with Carol). We did some catch up and talked about different things. She said motivational speaking engagements were hard to get. I could see it was hard for her to be positive all the time. Simply put, here she was teaching positive thinking, visualizations and affirmations and in her own life doing so wasn’t working out and she had doubts and was quizzical.
As I do sometimes I drew from my own experience and said, “Once you get past a certain age any take and approach you have on life gets seriously challenged.”
Her face looked relieved and at peace when she answered, “you’re so right.”