Real road versus the high road
Again the dilemma, does one lead a spiritual life or just live life? The spiritual life can lead to hypocrisy, phoniness, and can just force the issues. Plus you can miss out on many of life’s experiences.
Living, accepting life as it is, not forcing standards onto life that are unsupportable seems more workable. What's so wrong with a little flirting, or a little gossip? It releases tension and stress. Sometimes hearing what another person’s misfortunes are does make us feel better. So taking the high road isn't always the best road.
On the other hand, we have to keep the “high road” in mind. It sets a standard, even if too rigid a one. Okay you might ask, is the “high road” just conditioning from our past, our upbringing, our parents and institutions? Is it just programming? Yes, a large part of it might be. Some would argue our life purpose is to deprogram ourselves.
Still, some of these standards might be written into us before we even were. They might be part of our original structure, not just added on as we go along. So we have to be careful what we throw away.
We have our hands full. There's a lot of searching to do.